Personal blog
So, it seems that my challenge NOW is another process from recovery of ADDICTION. Do you have any behaviours which you consider addictive, but which don’t serve you well?
We all have those sorts of behaviours. Look at the Internet. It is one dopamine rush after another, guiding us to becoming machines.… Read the rest
Have you ever had the experience of someone pushing past you in the street, and them saying ‘sorry’, as they push past? Or have you ever experienced a situation in the world where someone needed you to move out of the way and they say ‘sorry’ to get your attention?… Read the rest
Have you ever had the experience of coming face to face with something you don’t like about another person, and suddenly feeling passionate that you want to cut ties with that person, or thinking that they are a ‘bad person’ and wanting to get away from them?… Read the rest
How are you going? It is an important question to ask during this very unusual and challenging time of the coronavirus pandemic and all the quarantine conditions that we are all subject to at the moment. It is a curious phenomenon actually, because it is a global event, and so we are all alike in our isolation at the moment.… Read the rest
I think it is true that the time we waste on people who don’t even like us, much less feel romantically interested in us, could be so much better spent on real life relationships that have actual potential. It can be interesting to consider what on earth you were doing in that toxic relationship in the first place?… Read the rest
Really interesting article today in the Wall Street Journal: ‘The Math Behind Successful Relationships‘ regarding a study by psychologist John Gottman and mathematician James Murray. I have read about this research previously. It is an interesting study, because from what I can gather, the biggest ENEMY to long-term relationship health, is ‘contempt’.… Read the rest
One of the best pieces of advice that I have heard recently is this idea of not being afraid to f*** it up! It really is the most excellent advice for someone like me, who likes things to be perfect. When things don’t turn out that way, which is often, because, hey, this is life, I can get caught up in a downward spiral to the lowest common denominator.… Read the rest
Christmas holidays are positioned as a happy time of year when everyone is supposed to be cheerful and enjoying family time. Perhaps the reason why this tradition is so enduring is that it has so much commercial significance. Christmas certainly stimulates the economy, so the story of giving and family is perpetuated year after year.… Read the rest
What I am just starting to realise is that I am not out of the woods yet! I have noticed in the past couple of weeks that things that used to bring me a lot of pleasure like working for a living and going out with friends, are now exhausting, and sometimes make me intensely irritable.… Read the rest
How do you take care of yourself? When you are in a period of mental health recovery you might learn more about yourself. You might also find new ways to recover and relax. I definitely find that my recent illness has made me consider a whole world of possibilities for engaging in mental health recovery.… Read the rest