Dear goodness…I am so grateful that I will have my first appointment with a sexual assault counsellor next week. The therapy was initiated due to a previous act of violence towards me, but I am hoping that my counsellor will be well-versed in relationship trauma and trauma bonds because I am noticing that I am spiralling down and down every day and feel worse every time I go through the toxic cycle with the person who I am doing this with.… Read the rest
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Winnicott transitional object in adult life
I find it very interesting that often when a particular long-term love interest finds its way back into my life I start reaching for my toy rabbit to cuddle. It is such an intuitive response and I am interested in exploring where it comes from psychologically.… Read the rest
Something funny
In my defence, haha.
Instagram has been feeding me such wonderful supportive posts lately, seemingly based on the pain I have been feeling. But there is nothing better than comedy for healing, am I right?
The capacity to roar – further reflections on this communication connection
It is so strange to reflect on what this relatively new internet communication connection is doing to my psychology. Today I am noticing that I am actually becoming angry if I perceive that someone is treating me like crap. Or if I am engaging in behaviour that is in some way disempowering to myself.… Read the rest
A fly in the ointment – real-life
Have you ever considered the way that social media (or any form of social interaction) on the interweb impacts your real-world social life? I Googled ‘social media is making us antisocial’ (or a near variant) when I got home tonight. Something awful is happening to me and to my brain lately.… Read the rest
Feeling sad thoughts – self-compassion statements
Are you feeling sad today? I can empathise. I have been feeling sad lately too. Someone who had made me feel like they cared for me, left me suddenly and I have had feeling sad thoughts ever since. I am starting to come good, but I thought I would share some of the things that helped me.… Read the rest
Saying ‘sorry?’ – try ‘thank you’ instead!
Have you ever had the experience of someone pushing past you in the street, and them saying ‘sorry’, as they push past? Or have you ever experienced a situation in the world where someone needed you to move out of the way and they say ‘sorry’ to get your attention?… Read the rest
Thoughts on the impacts of enforced isolation during the COVID-19 pandemic
How are you going? It is an important question to ask during this very unusual and challenging time of the coronavirus pandemic and all the quarantine conditions that we are all subject to at the moment. It is a curious phenomenon actually, because it is a global event, and so we are all alike in our isolation at the moment.… Read the rest
Learning about relationship patterns through no contact
I think it is true that the time we waste on people who don’t even like us, much less feel romantically interested in us, could be so much better spent on real life relationships that have actual potential. It can be interesting to consider what on earth you were doing in that toxic relationship in the first place?… Read the rest
Will your love survive? Different communication styles in a relationship
Really interesting article today in the Wall Street Journal: ‘The Math Behind Successful Relationships‘ regarding a study by psychologist John Gottman and mathematician James Murray. I have read about this research previously. It is an interesting study, because from what I can gather, the biggest ENEMY to long-term relationship health, is ‘contempt’.… Read the rest