Team sport or social dancing is purported to be great exercise for our brains. We started the paid Salsa course tonight. It certainly feels wholesome, and so, so good cognitively. The people that can lead and the instructors said that it takes time to get the steps, and within a few months of practice it becomes second nature.… Read the rest
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the changing weather of grief
I feel so sad for my friend who lost her husband of 40 years today. I am wondering how she must be feeling, and if it feels empty and bleak, or rich and soft with big tears. I guess she is going to feel a range of different uncomfortable emotions for the foreseeable future.… Read the rest
GLP-1 – nothing if not an adventure
There is simply nothing to be gained from complaining. And everything to learn through this very interesting experiment.… Read the rest
energising my nervous system
It is not my day.
I have struggled with my nervous system for most of it.
I am grateful for practices such as dancing, lengthening my inhale, brightly scented hand cream and cold water.
It also seems that humming and upbeat music is uplifting, albeit a little anxiety provoking.
Virtual co-regulation or the start of something challenging
Some therapists believe that the pathway to secure attachment lies in healing of our dysregulated nervous systems. This is the realm of Polyvagal theory. It makes sense to me intellectually. However, engaging in the co-regulating practices through a computer screen this evening leaves me feeling worse than when I began the workshop.… Read the rest
an interesting and familiar experience in a chess game
It was such an interesting experience to find myself in a losing position in my chess game with my Dad tonight.
I was assessing my options, and all I could see, through all the different possible moves I could make was carnage of my pieces on the board.… Read the rest
opportunities to grow
Coming home is usually such a growth experience for me.
I tend to learn a lot about myself and how I have been impacted by our family dynamic.
Hopefully I can carry these lessons with me as I travel.
I could look back at what I wrote during my last visit and see if it helped me develop.… Read the rest
understanding men
It is so interesting to learn about male psychology and biology. I am noticing that I perceive men in such a different way as I build this knowledge. I see them ‘from their point of view’ rather than through a woman’s lens.… Read the rest
seeing value in less obvious ways, perhaps
The second thing that came out of the conversation with my psychologist friend today was a bit of professional development.
I told her about my woes regarding underwhelming degrees of change in my psychosocial support work. She said that during the supervision process of practising psychologists one of the first things that they teach is not to expect change.… Read the rest
the stigma, perhaps, , , is that it?
I spoke to a psychologist friend of mine today.
Two things came out of the conversation.
The first is that it is hard on my soul to be ‘friends with a psychologist’, despite the fact that I have a weak but warm friendship with my first and favourite treating psychologist.… Read the rest